Dressing for a first date is a daunting prospect at the best of times, but doing so when your date is from a different religion and cultural background may make it even more taxing. It is important to project yourself in the image that you aspire to but also remain true to yourself. This is particularly prudent if you belong to a religion that has strict laws regarding attire such as the Muslim faith.
Choosing your attire based upon what you believe the other person will want to see may seem like a savvy idea to begin with but it may be a perilous road to start down. Sooner or later you will have to reveal your true colours to your date and they may not appreciate being kept in the dark. Your date may see it slightly disrespectful should you decide to impose yourself as somebody else during the first date or early dates.
It is important to find an outfit that demonstrate a certain self-respect and a respect for your date.
One of the most instantly noticeable things about Muslim women living in the Western world is their attire. The prevalent modesty is often striking in a culture that openly applauds the ‘less is more’ mantra. It is important for Muslim women to stay true to their faith, Islamic clothing and ideals. Compromising personal and religious standards only serves to cheat the woman in question and her date.
Carefully planned outfits can interest the date and maintain the modesty of traditional Islamic fashion. One technique would be to abide by the Muslim standards of dress but using westernised items of clothing. For instance, a Hijab can be easily replaced by a stylish and fetching scarf. Similarly a highly fashionable maxi dress can be used as a modest, comfortable and attractive Muslim dress.
It is important to always remember that your date will be just as nervous and anxious to please as you are, if not more. Therefore, it is wise to use every opportunity to bond, even over clothing. Items of clothing that are rare in your date’s culture may make them feel slightly alienated and insecure. If you do decide to wear traditional Muslim clothing, ask your date how they feel about it and if they have any questions. This may seem like it would start an awkward conversation but once they understand your core beliefs and reasons for following the Muslim clothing standards, they will respect your honesty and dedication.
Attire is often considered to be a reflection of the wearer and their personality, if your personality is shaped heavily by your faith, then it may behove you to express that in dress.
In the end, successful dating is dependent upon mutual respect and complete honesty. It is vital that you respect both yourself and your date and are honest with both parties as well.